By Kristina Garcia        

What most women want in a good lover is someone who really knows theirway around the clit.  Make no mistake about it, the clitoris is awoman?s gateway to sexual pleasure. Treat her clit well and you cancount on being invited in and invited back!

1. Clit Seduction. Anyone who?s ever engaged in a little hot-and-heavy petting knows you needn't be naked to stoke the fires ofpleasure. Use your hand or other body parts to rub against her clitthrough your clothes. Run the palm-side of your hand over her pants ordress; do it slowly, from top to bottom and then back again, making sureyou maintain an even amount of pressure throughout. Your intentionhere should be more of a stroke and less of a grab. You'll knowyou?re on the right track if she starts to hump you or she arches her body in order to make contact with your hand!
2. Get the Lay of the Land. When you?re undressed, give her afull body massage to tease her arousal. When you?re down near hergenitals, spend some time getting to know the lay of the land. Awoman?s clit is the small round nub located right at the top meetingpoint of the inner labia. It's covered by a layer of skin (kind of likea tiny foreskin) called the clitoral hood. Direct contact with theclitoris (if you were to pull back the hood) is too intense for mostwomen, so focus your attention on the hood.
3. Digital Delights. As with meeting any new friend, yourhands are the first things to introduce to her clit. Be sure to mixit up by varying not only what part of your hands you use,but also the pressure and speed, and pay close attention to herbreathing and body language.  Feel free to ask her specificquestions (for instance, does she likes it faster or slower?) and be sureto use a gentle lubricant to keep things moving slickly. If youfind that your hands tire, let a vibrator come to the rescue. Try afingertip vibrator like the Fukuoku 9000 or the Finger Fun Vibe. Thesewill not only do some of the work for you, but will also show her thatyou?re willing to go the extra mile to please her.
4. Oral Gasms. Now that you?ve warmed her up with your lovinghands, you?re probably dying to get a taste of her - and she may befeeling pretty tasty herself! Many women love the feeling ofcunnilingus and adore partners who pay homage to their clit in thisintimate way. Encourage her to relax and focus on the sensations byoffering her a Satin Mask Blindfold, and make yummy moans and groanswhile you go down on her. Instead of going straight for her clit, spendplenty of time lingering on her outer and inner lips ? there's so much tosee and do there, and if you build the proper anticipation she'll bepushing into your face with her pelvis to show you how ready she is formore. Feel free to experiment with different kinds of licks, varyingplacement, pressure, and speed, but when you find one movement thatsets her off, stick with it. Clits love repetition, so unless she asksyou to back off, maintain the stimulation and you'll be pleasantly rewarded.
5. Clit Considerations. If she?s a new partner and you?repracticing safer sex, or if you want to avoid getting lube in yourmouth, employ a Glyde Dental Dam ? a little lube on her side of it willkeep the action slippery and wet, and maximize the sensations forboth of you.  Once you're both ready to raise the bar, her clitwill already be swollen with pleasure from all of the warm-up you?veprovided.  
6. Creative Clit-Loving Positions. Women's clits typicallydon't get much direct stimulation from intercourse, but ingenious couples' vibrators remedy this. A great vibe for couples to enjoytogether is the Petal Ring Vibe ? it's actually a cock ring that alsovibrates against her clit during penetrative sex.  Small vibrators like the Pocket Rocket can easily be nestledagainst a clit during intercourse positions, or larger toys like the Hitachi Magic Wand work well if you?re looking for something to eitherlay on top of during rear entry, or to sandwich between you during themissionary position.   

The most important thing to remember when loving her clit is tostart slowly and build up the anticipation.  No two women, orclits, are exactly alike, so the key is to pay attention to her bodylanguage and to trust your instincts as you create a specializedtechnique.