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Long Distance Romance: How to Keep the Heat Alive

by KDT

Long distance romance is more common than ever these days; whether you met online from different cities/states/countries, or one of you has moved for work or school, you're likely to face some unique challenges in keeping the heat alive. Online advice abounds on how to make long distance relationships work, but forget that for a moment: how do you maintain the sexy? Babeland has five surefire tips to keep things sizzling when your lover isn't local.

  1. On your video phone, make a cameo... You may be familiar with Skype, the free videoconferencing tool, but are you using Skype to its full potential? Skype offers you that rare opportunity to see one another's faces, so it's easy to see a little more of each other, too. Try a little striptease during your weekly check-in to keep long distance romance alive. Better yet, the awesomely high-tech OhMiBod Better Than Chocolate is Skype-compatible, so you can watch your sweetie getting off to the sound of your voice. Plug it into your computer so it vibes to the rhythm of your shared words, commands, and moans. While one of you does the talking and watching, the other can do all the writhing. And of course, this sleek toy is just as great for solo use: it's waterproof, powerful, and is powered by touch-sensitive controls. Be sure to add a little BabeLube for extra slip and pleasure. Isn't it fun to live in the future?
  2. Talk dirty to me. If you're a dirty-talk master, we salute you! And if it's never been your thing, give it a try — voices, groans, and even heavy breathing can be a huge turn-on over the phone, and essential to making your long distance relationship work. Masturbating together while on the phone is always fun, but when even that gets a little routine, surprise your honey by reading an erotic story aloud. (Just slip a finger vibe like the Fukuoku 9000 onto your free hand, and you'll be getting off with ease while you read.) Anthologies like Best of the Best Women's Erotica 2 or Best Women's Erotica 2010 have a variety of stories to suit any taste. Pick one that you think will get her worked up. Or read one that turns you on so much, you can't help but take immediate action while you're on the phone. Talk about a win-win!
  3. Help them help themselves. Here at Babeland, we love masturbation. Encourage one another to do it often by sending some very sexy care packages, filled with goodies that enhance the self-love experience. Send her a powerful clit vibrator like the bestselling Jimmyjane Form 3, which looks enough like a tongue that she's sure to be reminded of yours. And speaking of tongues, the Sqweel offers ten velvety pink tongues gently flicking across her clit. It's the next best thing to you being there! For him, consider one of our many men's masturbation sleeves. Racecar aficionados will love the sleek Cobra Libre vibrating sleeve. The pre-lubricated Tenga Double Hole Sleeve blows minds with varying sensations from two distinct holes. Of course, there's also the infamous Fleshlight Vulva which might remind him a little more of one of your distinct holes.
  4. Make a mixtape with a bang. Okay, so maybe you can't make a mixtape, but you can certainly make a playlist! It feels great to get a custom-made gift, and she'll feel this one in more ways than one. Be sure to include some hard-hitting rock, rap or dance tunes so she can be pleasured into oblivion with a music-responsive vibe. Innovative toymaker OhMiBod has given us the Freestyle, a versatile vibe that connects to your iPod or CD player and buzzes to the beat of your favorite tune. Or if you want her to think of you throughout the say, get her the Club Vibe, a pink bullet inside a pair of stretchy lace panties. You can even set it to vibrate along with ambient noises!
  5. Have a sexy date... in two cities at once. With a little imagination, long distance romance can be just as much fun as the in-person version. Here's how you do it: pick one night and time every week when, in your respective cities, you do something sexy together. To begin, try shopping online at the same time for a porn DVD that the two of you would enjoy watching together (we love Open Invitation, Pirates and Pirates II, Matt and Khym, and the Crash Pad DVDs). But two copies — one for each of you — and at the agreed-upon time, press play. Stay on the phone together, and enjoy the sounds of your sweetheart getting turned on... and hopefully getting off, with your encouragement.
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