
A concept generated and dispersed across the web by blogger
Rabbit White,
Lady Porn Day is (in Rabbit's own words) "a day to explore porn and masturbation. Because it's tough trying to explore porn as a girl." It's a chance to share your thoughts on porn, the good, the bad and everything in between by submitting your thoughts to
Rabbit's site or
tweeting about it. For this weeklong blogosphere project, she has enlisted amazing sexuality folks to get the discussion going; posts include an interview with porn star
Jiz Lee and an excerpt from sexuality educator
Betty Dodson's memoir,
My Sexual Revolution. The project has been getting a lot of attention,
some of which has been critical of its marketing approach and somewhat nonexclusive imagery. That being said, the fact that an open conversation about porn (with all thoughts on the matter given their due time) is being produced is a notable and valid place to start.In the spirit of getting a dialogue going, here is my contribution to Lady Porn Day:I've always had mixed feelings about porn. I've looked at and watched porn for most of my life, though I've had complicated ideas about it throughout that time. Having grown up in the Internet age, I can remember searching out free porn to watch on the web since I was young. I also remember seeing
Playboy Magazine at an even younger age and being unable to identify with the hairless, shiny nudity on its pages. Images in porn were such a mixed bag, I sometimes felt I could identify with the participants, while other times not at all. I wasn't always sure what to think of porn, there was so much porn covered, it seemed impossible to have just one opinion on it. Also, knowing that pornography wasn't approved of by my elders, I always felt a little dirty or wrong looking at it (though maybe not always in a bad way, hah!) So sometimes it served to open my sexuality, while the stigma of it sometimes shamed me into trying to avoid it. Yet when I discovered female-lead porn by people such as
Tristan Taormino or the erotica from the other women who ran the magazine
On Our Backs, I realized that knowing who was showing me sexual images (and why they were showing me them) mattered to me and affected my ability to get excited about viewing pornography. It's been exciting for me to live in a time when queer porn is gaining popularity and stars such as
Buck Angel,
Billy Castro,
April Flores,
Jiz Lee and
Syd Blakovich have changed the way porn stars look and are "allowed" to act. The notion that porn is empowering, or has the possibility of being empowering, is far more convincing an argument when trans bodies, fat bodies and genderqueer bodies are shown in all their wonderful glory. I also really love what people like
Tristan Taormino and
Nina Hartley do for education and porn; I can geek out on sex while getting off at the same time! Though porn that shows a range of sexualities and is educational isn't the only kind of porn I watch (I, like most Americans, still enjoy the occasional fast food consumption, if you know what I mean), it helps me to know it's there for others. While I still stand firm that no person can have one singular opinion of porn, good or bad, I'm happy to say that some of the porn I've watched as an individual and as a Babeland employee has educated me, enlightened me and made me a more well-rounded person. And masturbator.What porns have you enjoyed? What porn stars do you vibe with?ino and
Nina Hartley do for education and porn; I can geek out on sex while getting off at the same time! Though porn that shows a range of sexualities and is educational isn't the only kind of porn I watch (I, like most Americans, still enjoy the occasional fast food consumption, if you know what I mean), it helps me to know it's there for others. While I still stand firm that no person can have one singular opinion of porn, good or bad, I'm happy to say that some of the porn I've watched as an individual and as a Babeland employee has educated me, enlightened me and made me a more well-rounded person. And masturbator.What porns have you enjoyed? What porn stars do you vibe with?