Yours truly hosted a fellatio workshop last night for some women from a local PR firm. They drank wine and talked freely about the fine art of the blow job. It was great to see this much enthusiasm and interest in oral sex. I passed along my favorite little tip about adding a finger vibe to your next blow job, which practially resulted in a stampede to the cash register! Made me realize I ought to pass it along to you all! Strap a little vibe like the Finger Fun or the Fukuoku underneath your finger tip. While you're sucking cock, wrap the vibrating hand around the base of his cock and follow the up and down motion of your mouth. You can also run it along his balls, or hold it against your cheek for an indirect buzz. As you can see, this toy offers lots of options. You can learn more about technique from How to Give a Blowjob.On a different note though, I was surprised at how many women reported comments like this: "my boyfriend tells me that a blow job doesn't count unless I swallow." This giant vulva was simply shocked at such rudeness on the part of the ungrateful blow job recipients. I patiently explained to these lovely women that a blow job is a gift, and one that should be given strictly on the terms of the giver, not the receiver! Like any sex act, you should only do what you feel comfortable doing. Sadly, too much emphasis has been placed on this silly issue of swallowing or not swallowing, which is so trivial compared to how heavenly the blow job itself feels. It's hogwash that swallowing should be interpreted as a sign of love! If that were true, I'd get all my paramours to demonstrate their love for me by demanding that they do my dishes and clean my house.And might I just encourage all you blow job givers to demand equal time. Any guy who expects a bit of southern action ought to return in kind. If he doesn't, you have my permission to kick him to the curb! And if he needs a little skill-builiding, have him check out How to Go Down on a Woman.