We talk about sex all day every day with the most wonderful people, our customers, and there are definitely common themes to the issues and questions that come up. This list represents our best tips and techniques to take your sex life over the top in 2012. Share your lessons and insights with us in the comments.

1. Throw out what you’ve been told about sex, what you think you should be doing, the way you think you’re supposed to act or respond. It’s making your sex life less fun, less playful, and less fulfilling.

2.  All bodies are hot and however your body works is right. Great sex isn’t bestowed on people who look a certain way. Every day, our customers tell us that something about their sex lives doesn’t correspond to the response they think they should be having. None of it is true! All bodies and desires are different. Resolve to have the kind of sex you actually want and to learn what your partner wants, as well.

3. Lube! This one isn’t new, but it’s still one of the most important tools in your nightstand. Lube can take any kind of stimulation and make it feel even better. While we can offer some helpful advice about different types of lube for different activities - thicker lube for anal sex, silicone lube for use in water - what works best is a personal preference. Try the Sliquid Lube Cube so that you can sample six different kinds of lube.

4. Dirty talk is magical. Take any kind of stimulation and suddenly by talking about it, the whole act can feel even more intense and incredible. If it feels awkward, get started by describing the action. It’s okay to feel a bit silly at first. "I'm rubbing you with this finger vibe," or "I'm going to slide this vibrating cock ring on you."

5. Better communication via a Yes/No/Maybe list. Make a list of all the sex acts you can think of, from kissing to fisting to 69 and BDSM, or take the list from Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex. You and your partner get to mark each act indicating your willingness to do it. At the end, you have a hot sex menu to choose from! In the New Year, you can use this as a tool to see what you want to try out for the first time and what you want to learn about.

6. Try something new, like backdoor sex. One of the most common questions we're asked is about how to start out with anal penetration. We love answering this question and there’s so much we could tell you, but it mostly comes down to this: use thick lube, go slowly, start with something small. Anal sex shouldn’t hurt, and it’s a nasty, persistent myth that it will. It should feel really, really good for both women and men.

7. Use the right tools for stimulating the G-spot. A good G-spot toy has a dramatic curve and can be made of a hard material so that you can put pressure on the G-spot. The Uma and the Gigi are two of our favorites.

8. Try a twist on an old position. Instead of the missionary position for anal or vaginal sex, lift the butt of the person being penetrated. This lets the other partner be on their knees, instead of holding themselves up on their hands. Try using the Heart Wedge. It’s a dense foam cushion designed for sex and it positions the butt at the perfect angle to enhance G-spot or prostate stimulation. It also opens up the front of the body so that you can stimulate the clit or cock.

9. Touch, stroke, and play with your partner’s whole body. There are so many different kinds of stimulation. Try a massage candle to loosen them up all over. Running a Pinwheel up an arm gives a delicious chill. A small, soft leather flogger can bring a sexy sting to a butt. Use your imagination.

10. Have fun! Laugh! Be messy! Make weird noises! Let go of your inhibitions. There’s no right way to have sex, so take the pressure off yourself and enjoy it.houldn’t hurt, and it’s a nasty, persistent myth that it will. It should feel really, really good for both women and men.