I probably don't have to tell you that we live in a busy, busy world, with iPhones, second jobs, credit card debt and stress, stress, stress. I think we may have gone so far past the point of being stressed out, we're, like, post-stressed at this point. And in addition to everything else we try to holistically cram into our days (the efforts to exercise and be healthy, hang out with friends, spend quality time with our families and partners), we also want to have successful, satisfying sex lives. No easy feat, for those who are already stretched passed the point of being busy and are full on totally overwhelmed.Recently, the Observer, the New York Times and the Village Voice all published articles on the possibility that "sex was dead" - it simply isn't something we can fit into the daily schedule. And it makes sense. If a person works 14 hours a day, or they have children (or they work 14 hours and have children), sex might as well be the last thing on their mind at the end of a hard day. I know for myself: talking about sex at work all day, while it may seem like a natural aphrodisiac, can actually have the opposite effect. Sex can start to seem painfully like work, especially when it is your work.It's not just simply being busy that stops us from getting horny, though. There has been studies that suggests that especially in women, sexual function can be adversely affected on a physical level by life's distractions, financial concerns, fatigue, workaholism and anxiety about sexual performance or a potentially negative sexual experience. So not only aren't you in the mood, but your lifestyle can also be contributing to you not getting in the mood. Luckily, there is also recent research that suggests that reading erotic literature, masturbating and getting physical exercise are great ways to enhance sexual desire and improve sexual stimulation.So maybe now is a good time for those of us who can't even conceive of fitting something else into our schedule (including, well, sex with our partner) to start thinking about sex differently. It doesn't always have to be an obligatory 15 minutes well after our bedtime, it can also be the sexual and emotional connections we make with our loved ones. Spend time with your sweetheart doing the things that are intimate, be it a romantic dinner, shopping (maybe toy shopping?), or just a casual TV night. Attend a workshop; we have some great ones this month that focus on ways to get relaxed, re-focused and turned on, such as the NYC Yoga Positions for Sex workshop or the Seattle Healthy Communication in Relationships and Sex, Sanity and Sleep workshops. But most of all, take this opportunity to acknowledge yourself as a busy person who can't do everything. Unless human cloning happens sometime soon.