Harnesses

Most harnesses come in a couple of basic styles (one- and two-strap) and a choice of leather, vinyl, rubber, or nylon, but after that the details make the difference. Read through these options if you are just starting. If you are down to a couple of harnesses and you want a deciding factor, figure out how they differ and go straight to that area.

One Strap or Two?
Material
Buckles or D-Rings?
Do I need a snap out O-Ring?
Padding Behind the Base?
What if my dildo has balls?
Sizing
Stimulation for the Harness Wearer
Thigh Harnesses

One Strap or Two?

Ask yourself if you feel sexy in a G-string, or do you feel more “you” in a jock strap? That difference summarizes the basic harness style difference. Here are the benefits of each:

Single-strap (G-string style) harnesses:

Single strap harnesses fit like a G-string.
This style is easy to take on and off.
The middle strap on most harnesses is not adjustable. Some smaller women find that the middle strap is too long for them.
The O-ring is permanent in most of these styles.
The dildo presses directly against your skin, rather than against a pad.
Dildos with balls can be bulky and look awkward.
The middle strap can provide some clitoral stimulation to the harness wearer.
The Buzz Me Tender Harness has two vibrator pockets built in for added stimulation—one for the harness wearer and one for the receiver.

Two-strap harnesses:

The jock strap style has two leg straps that fit around the under-curve of your butt (where butt meets thigh).
Fits snugly and securely. Many two-strap fans say they feel they have better control over the dildo with this style harness.
The Commando Harness, a two-strap, is the most variable harness in our toy chest, allowing you to get the dildo placed right where you want it and hold it there.
Terra Firma styles are highly adjustable and secure.
In a two-strap, the harness wearer's vulva and anus aren't covered up by the harness material.
Two-straps are easier to wear for a long period of time (no “butt floss” feeling).
The Commando Harness style offers snap-out O-rings so you can use different rings to fit various sized dildos.
The Crown Harness, a two-strap style, is our largest harness, fitting up to 64” hips.

Materials

Leather (Commando Harness, Jaguar Harness)

Leather feels buttery soft and, to many people, it's a sexy material.
Leather is form-fitting.
It only gets softer with age.
Clean by wiping down with lightly damp cloth and anti-bacterial soap and wipe dry. Do not soak and do not letter water pool on the leather.
Many people treat their harnesses and leather goods with leather oils and conditioners to keep them looking new.

Nylon (Terra Firma)

Nylon is a cheaper option than other materials.
It's vegan.
Nylon is machine-washable in cold water. Drip dry (don't put in the dryer, as the plastic parts can melt).
The padding is neoprene and lasts for a long time.
The straps are similar to backpack straps—some people don't like the feeling against their skin.
It's hot tub safe!

Rubber (Rubber Harness)

If you have a rubber fetish—and you know who you are—you'll love the foxy, solid feeling of this rubber two-strap harness, which is also bathtub safe.
Rubber can be cleaned with anti-bacterial soap and water.
It's vegan.

Vinyl (Bionic Harness, Princess Harness)

Who's the rock star? You are! These sexy stylin' harnesses are tough, long-lasting, snug-fitting and solidly made—and they're even vegan. Plus, they are the most glamorous harnesses we have ever seen! Clean with anti-bacterial soap and water. You can submerge these harnesses for washing. Be sure to dry off the metal buckles and rivets to prevent rusting.

Why does it make a difference whether it has buckles or D-rings?

D-rings are almost infinitely adjustable. They are easier to tighten in mid-fuck than buckles and make it quick and easy to slip your harness on and off. Some people find that straps can loosen during sex with D-rings.

Buckles are strong and stylin'. Like your favorite belt, your harness will go on right every time once you figure out which hole is yours. A harness that buckles won't loosen on you at inconvenient times.

When would I need a snap-out O-ring?

Harnesses with permanent rings or no built-in ring at all are 1 3/4" in diameter. They will fit most dildos. If you like much larger dildos, however, forcing them into a small ring can cause them to break at the base over time. Many thinner dildos have smaller bases that can slip right through a 1 3/4” ring. The Commando Harness is a two-strap option that offers adjustable O-rings.

What is the difference between harnesses with and without the pad behind the dildo?

Some folks find that the back pad present in Terra Firma style harnesses prevents their pubic hair from getting caught between the dildo and the harness, thus giving them a smoother ride. Others prefer a harness without a pad because they enjoy the stimulation of feeling the base of the dildo against their body. Which sounds better to you?

What is the best harness to wear with dildos that have balls?

Terra Firma style harnesses are best for dildos that have balls. The balls can be bulky and awkward if stuck behind the harness. By having the dildo in front of the pad, you can show off and enjoy the visual.

How do I know what size I need?

Sizing on harnesses is pretty basic. All the nylon harnesses are one size only and fit up to about a 46-48" hip. Most of the leather harnesses come in one size as well (up to 44" hip). If you have very narrow hips, check out the patent leather Black Cat harness. The Crown harness (up to 64” waist) fits higher on your belly for easier access.

Remember, these measurements depend on where you wear your harness—lower on your hips or closer to your waist. If you decide to measure for fit, measure where you want the waist strap to go.

How can I get more clit stimulation while wearing my harness?

Dildos with bullet vibes in the base (Echo, Buzz 1) will send vibration right through to the harness wearer in any either two-strap or single-strap harness.

The Buzz Me Tender Harness has two pockets so you can slide a battery vibe in for the harness wearer, the recipient, or both! Try the Double Bullet Vibe with it.

What's up with thigh harnesses?

Thigh harnesses hold your dildo in that most logical of places—on your thigh. You can use one of these to put all the power of your strongest limb into your passion for penetration! For more egalitarian couples, they are great in pairs. In a scissors-like position you both get penetration! It's a more advanced version of bump and grind.

Thigh Harnesses are also great for sitting-up sex. Thighs are easy to straddle and leave more room for your partner to pleasure your breasts, belly, or clit. Take note: thigh harnesses are the absolute first choice for anyone with hip, back, or mobility issues!