by Alicia Guinn

Talking dirty is one of our favorite topics here at Babeland! Don?tbe fooled into thinking that dirty talking is just repeating certain?nasty? words and phrases. In the hands of a thoughtful lover, hot talkis elevated to an art form. Not only can dirty talk heat up your lovelife, it can open up avenues of communication about sex in yourrelationship. And hot talk is an unsurpassed tool to help you explorefantasies through the power of imagination.

Five-Minute Erotica

101 Nights of Grrreat Sex Game

X: The Erotic Treasury

Experimental Kink Set

Silky Blindfold

1. Find a Vocabulary. One of the hardest parts ofbecoming astellar dirty-talker is finding a vocabulary that seems right to you.?Cock? or ?Dick? or ?Penis?" ?Pussy? or ?Cunt? or ?Vulva?" Or are youlooking for different words altogether? Most people find that somewords make them hot, while others make them laugh, and others leavethem cold.Start thinking about the sexy words that get your enginesrevving.  And start putting those words to use! One of the besttips for getting started is to describe what?s happening when you?rehaving sex and how you feel about it.
2. Talk about Sex.Period. If you and your partner haven?talready cultivated communication about sex in your relationship, itwill be more challenging to dip your toes into the world of dirtytalk. If you have trouble talking about sex in general, dirty talk maynot seem like an exciting idea at all. If this is the case, hottalk should be only one part of your developing repertoire forcommunicating about sex. To break the ice, try reading Five-Minute Erotica book with your partner.
3. Talk about Sex Outside the Bedroom. As you explore dirty talk, you should also be building other waysof talking to your partner about sex outside of the act itself. Ourfavorite tool for couple's communication is the sex date. Treatyourselves to a fabulous night out and have a chat about your sex life,especially the things you like about it and the things you?d like totry in the future. Outside of your relationship with your partner, itmakes a revolutionary difference in both your day-to-day and your sexlife to have a community of friends in which it?s perfectly normal totalk about sex.
4. Practice, Practice. If even the thought of whisperingnasty secrets in your lover?s ear makes you squeamish, learning to talkdirty may take some extra dedication and practice. Many people feeluncomfortable when they first begin to hone their dirty-talking skills.Be assured that the more practice you get, the more comfortable you?llfeel. Youmay need to work on your vocabulary by practicing aloud to yourself.You can make the practice even more fun if you talk to yourself whileyou masturbate. Or maybe you should start out by writing hot notes toyour sweetie rather than speaking aloud. Playing a game like the 101 Nights of Grrreat Sex Game is a great way to get you and your partner talking and laughing about sex.
5. Research.Dirty talking is a two-way street. It?simportant to take into consideration your partner?s preferences forwords and phrases as well as your own. To be a great dirty talker, youneed to know your partner?s hot spots. Words that might be offensive toone person will be right on the money for getting someone else?sjuices flowing. It?s the difference between calling someone your?sweetheart? or your ?sweet little cocksucker.?  You can startsharing your fantasies by taking turns telling each other hot stories.Or even writing each other sexy notes.  One of the easiest ways todelve into your fantasy life is to share erotica that you enjoy withyour partner, and tell them what makes it hot for you. A good place to start is X: The Erotic Treasury, a luxurious compilation of 40 of the hottest stories ever written. Or watch a pornvideo together and talk about what you do ordon't like about the verbal repartee.
6. Surprise! Hot talk is a great sexy tool because it?s soportable. You can take it anywhere with you as long as you?re discreet!Take advantage of a crowded restaurant or bar, a quick private trip inan elevator, or a short talk on the phone to unleash some sexy words onyour unsuspecting honey. And expect to be rewarded with some hot sex bythe time you make it home.
7. Role Play. Role playing is an extension of dirty talk that can be more in-depth and detailed. You can even include bits ofcostumes as you act out the roles in your favorite fantasies. Usingdirty talk, you and your partner can imagine yourselves in dozens ofsexy situations just through the power of words. It?s an especiallygreat way to explore and share fantasies you?ve always had but might not want to act out in real life. Our Experimental Kink Set is perfect for any couple just getting into role play.
8. Accessorize.Having props around can help you get into a role-play, or simply giveyou something to focus on while you're talking. Put a blindfold on yourpartner, and then tease your partner with descriptions of what you'regoing to to with that edible gel, that paddle, that sexy cock ring, ora new vibrator.