by Rachel Venning

Fisting is when one partner puts their whole hand inside the other'svagina. Although the hand naturally curls up into a fist once insidethe vagina, it is a gradual process of easing in more and more of thehand until the entire fist is inside. Having your pussy filled upcompletely can be intense, and watching your arm disappear at the wristinto your lover's body can be an arousing thrill. Usually not a sexpractice for a first date, fisting takes more care than does justslipping in a digit or two. Here are some tips to ease the way.

1. Fisting is a well-orchestrated duet. Think of fisting as acollaboration, not as something one partner "does" to the other. If thereceptive partner is usually a "lay back Queen" she may have to do alittle more work than she's accustomed to. Similarly, "slam bam thankyou ma'am" types will have to cool their jets a bit. Activecommunication and trust are necessary, so keep talking to let eachother know what's up.

2. Manicures, please. The hand that's going in should have a manicureworthy of a reception with the Queen Mother. Any hangnails, raggededges, corners or rough spots should be smoothed away. Get those nailsas short as you can.

3. Black Dragon Latex Gloves

   Use lots of water-based lube.Let it slop all over your fingers, and grease the wide part of yourhand up with extra zeal. Keep applying lube as you go. Latex gloves, inaddition to being a barrier against STDs, can make your fist evenslicker.

4. Turn yourselves on. Do the things that get you turned on the mostand go from there. For multi-orgasmic women, fisting is often easierafter an orgasm or two. While working in the wide part of the hand, useyour mouth, the fingers of your other hand, or a vibrator for an extrafizz of clitoral sensation to increase the pleasure and distract herfocus from any discomfort that fisting may cause.

5. As your lover pushes her hand in, let your cunt relax. To do thistry clenching up and holding the PC muscles tight, then with a bigsighing exhale, release that tightness; as you release and relax, yourlover's hand will slide farther in. Breathe deeply. Picture your vaginain your mind, seeing it open up to receive the hand of your lover.

6. Stretch out. If the receiver is lying on her back, she may findthat stretching out and tilting her head back creates more room for thehand. With the spine stretched out, all the internal organs move uptoo, creating more space and less pressure on the vagina.

7. Once your hand is in, it's a commitment. When you're in past thewide point of your hand, your lover's vagina will envelop your fist.She may start to contract so much that the pressure on your hand isuncomfortable. Hang in there. If you pull out suddenly, you could hurther. The easiest way to come out is to let her push you out while she'scoming. If you must pull out, tell her, so that she can work with youto ease her hand out.

8. Move with care. When you get your hand inside, think more offilling her up than of pumping. As the fingers slide in the thumb oftencurls under them to form a fist, although it's also possible for thethumb to be on the outside. Either way, once you are inside start yourmovement by contracting and expanding your hand to fill her up evenmore. If she likes that, try moving in and out a bit, but go slow andgentle. Sometimes all the fistee wants is the feeling of being filledup by your hand, other times more fucking action is welcome.

About Anal Fisting

Anal fisting has a lot in common with vaginal fisting. Once again,key ingredients are relaxation, communication and lubrication. Manyfind opening up anally more challenging than being vaginally receptive,so give yourself plenty of time and permission to go only as far as youwant to go. While vaginally one should only use water-based lubricants,for anal play, oil-based lubes which are thicker and longer lasting areokay. Use plenty of lube and work your way in one finger at a time.Deep breathing, consciously releasing clenched anal muscles, goingslow, and staying tuned into your partner are key.