by Alicia Guinn

Our bodies are capable of amazing things, and female ejaculation isjust one of them.  When a woman ejaculates, a clear watery fluidchemically similar to male prostatic fluid squirts out of herurethra. While some women ejaculate with an orgasm, others findthat orgasm and ejaculation are two distinct events. In either case, G-spot action is generally essential toejaculation, because it stimulates the production of ejaculate by the paraurethral glands.

Lots of folks are skeptical about female ejaculation, and even doubt theexistence of the G-spot! If you need irrefutable proof that theG-spot and female ejaculation exists, check out Expert Guide to the G-Spot, where you'll get to see several folks experiencing the joys of the G-spot. It's a movie thatcould change your life (or at least your sex life!).

Some women ejaculate easily, and find that they have actuallytaughtthemselves to hold back from ejaculating because they thought theirejaculate was urine. Not everyone ejaculates, but if you want to try and learn how, follow these simple steps:

Feel the Burn

Pelvic muscle tone seems to play a part in whether someone ejaculates or not. If you've never done PC muscle exercises, check out How to Exercise Your PC Muscles. For ejaculation, it's important to learn to relax as well as contract your PC (pubococcygeus)muscles. Relaxing or pushing out with your PC muscles will allow ejaculate to flow out of the urethra. Get in touchwith your PC muscles and see whether they're usually relaxed ortight. If the muscles are tense, learn to relax your pelvic floorby doing PC muscle exercises. You can start practicing right nowwhile you finish reading this article.

Take the Plunge

Another essential part of female ejaculation is G-spotstimulation. Finding your G-spot is easy! If you enjoypenetration, part of that feel-good feeling is probably a G-spotsensation. G-spot exploration is more about rewiring yourthinking about your own body than it is a quest for some secret "button" you've never noticed before.

1. First, take some time to get aroused. Masturbate the way younormally would. Put on a sexy DVD. Take out that well-loved collection of erotica, or just luxuriate in one ofyour favorite fantasies.  Before you start looking for yourG-spot, have an orgasm or two to congratulate yourself for being such an intrepid G-spot explorer! If you don't have multiple orgasms, tease yourself to a high plateau of arousal. When you're all warmed up, your G-spot will be easier to feel because it swells with blood and fluid during arousal.
2. Lube up your fingers and let them do the walking. Feel therelatively smooth walls of the vaginal canal. Touch your cervixif it's within reach. If you've never felt around your own vaginabefore, take some time to touch the different areas. Pressagainst the vaginal walls.  Notice the texture of the tissue and how it feels when you touch it.
3. Next, focus on the front wall of the vaginal canal (that's the onenearest your belly button).  About one or two inches in, thesurface will feel ridged and rough compared to the rest of the vaginaltissue. Press against that tissue and see how it feels. Itmight not feel like much. It might feel sensitive oruncomfortable. It might remind you of the sensation that tellsyou that you need to pee. It might feel great! Press harderand feel around for your pubic bone. If you can hook your fingerbehind it, see how that feels too. Surprise! You've justfound your G-spot! The rough and ridgy area we've explored on thefront vaginal wall is the G-spot, also known as the urethralsponge or the female prostate. Think of it as a G-arearather than just one little spot.
4. Add a toy. Fingers are suitable G-spot stimulators, though a lot of folks findthat it's easier to reach your own G-spot with toys, and that they provide good, firm stimulation. Any dildo orvibrator with a firm curve is a great G-spot option. Some of ourfavorites include the Babeland Orchid G and the Babeland Nubby G, along with great options like the Gigi and the weighty, non-vibrating Njoy Pure Wand. Experiment with stimulating your G-spot, and findstimulation that feels right for you.

Let it Flow

Some women will find that they naturally ejaculate with G-spotstimulation.  For others, a few more steps are involved inteaching your body to ejaculate.

1. Before stimulating your G-spot, empty your bladder. Alot of women don't let themselves ejaculate because they worry about urinating. If your bladder is empty, you won'thave to worry about peeing in your bed. If you're aroused,stimulating your G-spot, and feel a sensation similar to the need topee, continue with the stimulation and bear down with your PC muscles. You might ejaculate.
2. Minimize mess, maximize enjoyment! For a lot of women, the fear of peeing is so ingrained that ittakes a little more work to overcome. If you're in bed, considerputting a towel or two under your butt. If you're still plagued by pee-phobia, take your ejaculation exploration to thebathroom. You can put a few towels on the floor or try out thebathtub! Find a situation that will allow you to trust yourbody. And make a bargain with yourself: if you pee, youpee. No big deal. After all, all that stimulation feltgreat, right? If you work through that pee feeling, relax, andthen ejaculate, give yourself a high-five! Ifyou're worried about the mess, keep in mind that the amount ofejaculate is typically no more than a teaspoon or two.
3. Make a conscious effort to ejaculate. If you'restimulating your G-spot, relaxing your PC muscles, and ridingthat "something is going to happen" feeling but nothing's going, pushout with your PC muscles. Most likely, you'll push out theejaculate. And you'll squirt or sprinkle rather than gush.
4. Add clit stimulation. Many women find that G-spot stimulationfeels great, but that added clit stimulation, via tongues, hand, orvibrator, will take them over the top. Try a vibrator on your clit anda curved dildo like the Rose G-Spotter in your vagina if you're byyourself, and see what happens.

What happens if after all this exploration, you don't like G-spotstimulation or you didn't ejaculate? In the process, you'vecollected a lot of new information about your body and what you like during sex. It's worth checking back in with your G-spotoccasionally — sometimes G-spot sensitivity changes with your monthly cycle, or over a lifetime. Don't miss out on makingyour own splashy fun!